tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27163849.post3537971402841807226..comments2024-01-15T04:16:18.484-06:00Comments on Debbie Does Duluth: The Ups And The DownsDebbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00704916453841215332noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27163849.post-90103234557973003282009-10-11T09:55:47.027-05:002009-10-11T09:55:47.027-05:00I have a friend in an abusive relationship. I hav...I have a friend in an abusive relationship. I have advised her of how I feel about the whole thing, but, keep my frustrations about her staying in it to myself. She's scared, period. The best thing you can do is help them be less scared, but, to condemn them for being scared? Ridiculous. And Heartless.<br /><br />How could you stay in that situation? Mostly, because not a one of us thinks, "well, surely someone in my FAMILY will hurt someone else in my family, so I must remain vigilant and be ready to leave at a moment's notice!" Nobody, and I mean NOBODY does this. It is not in our nature as human beings to think the worst of people, even if there is "evidence". We cannot even grasp the concept of someone doing evil things, because it is so far from what we would think to do ourselves. Just awakening to the reality (don't need to tell you) is such a shock to our system that it sends us reeling. And then, when we are awakened to it, we are forever changed, and, not necessarily in a good way.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17392167891073936045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27163849.post-6122758525806561542009-10-10T10:41:16.663-05:002009-10-10T10:41:16.663-05:00Revictimization. What society and the powers-that...Revictimization. What society and the powers-that-be do to to keep the less-thans from rising up and screaming "The Emperor is NOT WEARING ANY CLOTHES!".<br /><br />It's the scarlet "A" on the forehead.<br /><br />It shuts you up and drains your energy past the point of empty. It quiets your voice, maintains order in the courtroom and pews of church and congenial looking backyard BBQ's.<br /><br />Let's not DEAL WITH IT - change it - create new laws, options, rituals of crime and punishment. Give the victim a PEN and make them right it down on PAPER and maybe we will send it to the perp for new wallpaper in their cell...<br /><br />Is that a goal? The objective of the crazy making rituals of laws and higher powers? The sanctified abuse of powers-that-be?<br /><br />Changing this starts with one voice at a time.<br /><br />You can't stop now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com